Just whisper

I'm trying to figure out what you do when you get to the point with someone, when every conversation turns into an argument.
I'm going to guess that avoiding them is the best possible strategy , but if that is not entirely an option, then what? I.G.N.O.R.E., or silence, neither of those seem to be conducive to resolution .

It's hard to get back to a place where you don't sample from the reservoir of anger, frustration, recrimination and general anxiety with every encounter. Being a full fledged adult helps, but it's not going to kick in every time. Every once in a while, you will succumb to the internal four year and join the ranks of most families by screaming until your horse, and coming up with amazingly creative and awful names.